Summer Jobs are starting up with the advent of June and my husband and I have found some paying work for our autistic son. He is finding it challenging to get in gear to do the outside work. Since it is a part-time job that needs to be attended to every couple of days, it is important to keep on top of the work load. The competing demands of video games, school finishing, and friends takes a bite out of his available work time. Factor in the inclement weather and one can have a few unworkable days each week.
Saturdays are “Free” days
Any parent knows that Saturdays are anything but free. It is a day to catch up on the laundry and other house hold chores. If the weather is good, it is a good time to do outdoor jobs. Our son doesn’t see Saturdays that way. He sees that he has attended school Monday to Friday. Since there is no school on Saturday, he doesn’t have to get up. When he does grace our breakfast table, it is at a late hour. He doesn’t think anything should be asked of him as this is “his” day to catch up with important world and universe domination on-line.
Part-time Summer Work
Our son likes to spend money. Basically on his video game lives. In order to obtain said money, he realizes he needs to let the real world interrupt his life now and again. With this in mind, we discussed summer work with him early in the spring. He was game and understood there would be new things to learn in doing a summer job. However, the actuality is different than the theoretical. Getting in gear to do the work seems to be a problem. Motivation to get outside to do the work is interfering with video gaming time. To stay on top of the work load, one needs to give the job diligent attention each week.
So after trying and encouraging our son to get outside and do some of his work this last Saturday, my husband and packed up the truck after supper and went to do his job. We weren’t happy about it, but a commitment is a commitment. We didn’t want our son to lose the contract, so we went and did the work. Our son had said that he would do the work that day, but got “stuck” at home. He wanted to talk to a friend on-line, then had to wait for that friend to call him, and then played with that friend on-line. Suddenly, three hours had slipped by in the afternoon. I wasn’t going to get in a fight over doing the work. I asked again if I could drive him up after supper to work. After receiving a negative reply, we decided to head out ourselves and do the work.
There is a happy ending to our story. It took an hour and a half, but our son finally showed up at the worksite. He had cooled down enough to realize that if he wanted the job, he needed to show up for it. He came and helped us finish up the work. He apologized and said that he would do better in the future. Looking forward into the next week’s forecast, I have earmarked two fine days to do the work with my son. I think it is better to just expect that this will be the activity for the day ahead of time. When the day comes, just do the work activity. He may not greatly enjoy the outside work, but I know he will enjoy spending the money without any hardship when payday comes .